Conversations-Quality or Quantity?

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In my country, there’s a song that goes, “An African woman is a beautiful woman, a quality woman, not a quantity woman….”

It makes me think of quality over quantity. No, not of women but of conversations, time, company.

Thinking of women though, my brain can’t fathom what they meant by a quantity woman. I thought it’s polygamy but it still doesn’t click.

Anyways..

Do you have a grip of your time, or is it just something you freely give away, like you have more than the 24 hours the rest of us are allocated, letting it slip through your fingers like it belongs to others. I refuse to accept that we “run out of time”, I think what we do is run out of respect for ourselves and our time’s value. Here’s why…

Talking, especially with your peers, feels good, whether valuable or not. But do you sometimes stop to check if the feel-good translates to long-lived feel-good and actual results? Sometimes, they result in just a short-lived excitement — especially gossip — Oh how juicy gossip can be! When it is served, I can usually taste it on my tongue and smell the aroma…there are those I have to literally make a cup of tea to go with it.

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But….
Really…lately I’ve been thinking, are all conversations worth it? What do I get from it? Could I have put that 1 hour into better use? That’s a whole 60 minutes gone!

So, how about every time you have or are about to have conversations, Watsap chats, or hang out with someone, ask yourself…

1. What value is this conversation adding to me?
2. Could I put this time to better use?
3. Tomorrow when I recall how I spent this time, will I feel good and fulfilled, or will I wish I could get a time machine?
4. Did I learn something that improves my knowledge or the quality of my life?

Now, don’t you get me wrong! I’m all about hanging out with a good friend to catch up or checking on each other…now that’s value!

My main point here is; Time is Limited, it is the greatest asset we have, but we often ignore this fact. It is important to consciously choose how you invest it, and that includes what you’re spending your time talking about!

Time is our most valuable asset, yet we tend to waste it, kill it and spend it rather than invest it~Jim Rohn.